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The TMC team share what helped make them feel like them again.

1. Get Out of the House
1. Get Out of the House

“Pre-kids working from home was never an issue as I would socialise or exercise around my work. But when we moved out of London and I returned to work, I found being at home stifling. It’s so easy to choose a chore over something that serves you when you’re always in your house. So forcing myself out has really helped. I now make sure I do just one day at home, and then the others are split between my local health club and one day up in the city. Basing myself in a place where I can exercise around work and have lunch and coffee made for me has enabled me to fit in more me-time. And on those days, I feel more like a person and less like a mum. Being in the city one day a week has given me back a buzz, and recently I’ve started heading up even earlier and doing an old spin class that I used to do before I had babies, and I’m shocked at how happy it’s making me.”

  TMC Editor, Lydia House

2. Go Dancing with Friends
2. Go Dancing with Friends

“Growing up, my parents were strict, so I didn’t ever go out dancing, which meant, in comparison to most, I was late to the game. And just before I got pregnant, I started to really enjoy going out and dancing. This was one thing I was keen to get back to, and it is sometimes hard when you have young kids and fear a hangover. But it doesn’t have to revolve around drinking, and I now make sure I plan nights out with friends where we dance and laugh, and it makes me feel alive and like me pre-kids.”

  TMC Style and Content Creator, Luzaan Shaw

3. Be More Organised
3. Be More Organised

“I have found making a weekly schedule with my partner is the best way to get things done fairly. We even rotate our weekend lie-ins and have a fitness schedule that enables us to work out at specific times. If he is away- which is a lot, I either plan a home workout or I book a sitter to watch the kids while I go. Exercise is not only self-care for me, but it makes me a better mum, friend, and wife. Another thing that helps me is my diet. Not restrictive, but wholesome great food is vital, as everything goes out of whack when I eat processed shit.”

  TMC Co-Founder Lauren Webber

4. Get Dates in Your Diary
4. Get Dates in Your Diary

There’s nothing that fills my cup more than chats with good friends. Make the time to organise your social calendar. Even though it can be hard to pin them down, the date always comes around quickly and is always worth it. It’s also important not to forget the person you had your baby with too! Date nights are a great way to reignite the spark if it’s fizzling and to do something that’s not so ‘mum and dad’. My husband and I get a babysitter or ask a grandparent to look after the kids at least once a month. Otherwise, it’s very easy to end up socialising without each other and only ever seeing them as a parent – which is not good.

  Co-Founder Jessica Lawes

5. Go to a The Mum Club Event
5. Go to a The Mum Club Event

“There’s nothing like the feeling you get after leaving a The Mum Club event. It’s why I wanted to be part of the company, as the events made me feel so good. They’re centred around women and put you at the focus, and going to one made me feel like a person again. And, of course, you don’t have to dress up or put on make-up, but since I spend most of my time with my hair up and in scruffy clothing, I loved having a reason to do just that.”  

TMC Designer, Jen Williamson

6. Make Time for Yourself
6. Make Time for Yourself

“I’ve always been complimented on my wardrobe, and wearing fabulous clothes makes me feel fabulous. And while you need to just wear whatever the hell you want when you’ve had a baby. The dowdy outfits I was throwing on after birth were making me feel low. So, in a bid to boost my mood, I’ve now started to plan my outfits and I’ve found some new styles that suit me. To help save time each morning, I leave them out the night before. And of course, I had to do a fair amount of online shopping first but prioritising this aspect of my life has improved my self-esteem and has let a little bit of the old me return. And that is worth every penny!”

  Andi Venardos, TMC Brand Partnerships Assistant

 7. Clear your Head
 7. Clear your Head

“Whether it’s swimming, yoga, running, or cycling, I think using some form of exercise that allows you to have a clear mind is so helpful. I go running, and it gives me such great headspace. I whack my gym gear on, put on some music, and just go. As I run, I think about my week, plot things out, or just enjoy the music. And if I’ve got pent-up energy from something that’s happened at home, like a row or kids playing up, it releases that too. I find when I come home, I’m happier and more able to mum as I’ve taken that time out for me.”

TMC Franchise Coordinator Jess Aanensen

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