TMC Talks To: Milly Bagot Founder of ByRuby.

Explain what you do in a sentence?

Along with my Co-Founder Ruby, we run a company called ByRuby where we make seriously special, hand-made food for your freezer.

How long have you done your job?

Since 2019 full time, and before then I juggled another job, starting up ByRuby in 2017, and having my third child all at the same time which was pretty full on!

What does your day or week entail?

It’s super busy, no 2 days are the same. I have 3 small children so it’s always a bit of a juggle. Sometimes I’m in the office covering emails, other times I’m working with Ruby on recipe development or I’m out in the field visiting our different stockists and lovely farm shops. There’s lots to do so it usually involves lots of early mornings, and each day starts with a strong cup of Yorkshire Tea which helps!

Where did you start out?

I left Durham University and fell into a job in the city. Quite quickly I realised that wasn’t for me and so I went on to partner with my Aunt at her wonderful food shop, Finns on Chelsea Green. 10 years later and still at Finns I met Ruby, my now business partner, when she started cooking there. We began to see lots of demand from our customers for really delicious, hand-cooked frozen meals, and at the same time I had just had my third baby and was desperate to find some pre-prepared food I trusted to eat myself and give to my friends. After a very successful trial of selling frozen meals prepared by Ruby at Finns, we realised the idea had legs and took the punt on starting the business of its own.

What has been your biggest challenge?

Navigating the funding landscape. Like all startups we have had to raise equity to help get us off the ground. Writing business plans and managing investor relations whilst running the business is a challenge. I am so pleased that I have had the support of wonderful people who have helped me along the way

What piece of advice would you give to someone hoping to do the same?

Go with your gut instinct and trust yourself when taking advice. Somebody may have more experience but nobody knows your business better than you.

Something you’ve learnt that is crucial to either your job or to success:

Be kind and always be yourself. Also, talk to anyone who is interested, it’s amazing where connections take you.

How important is it to switch off?

To be honest I find it very hard to switch off. Whilst my business is always in the back of my mind, my children are a great distraction and will always be my number one priority. You will rarely see me working after 6:30pm, and a glass of wine and dinner with my husband is a crucial part of my day. Sleep is a big priority, and I really use that as my ultimate switch off time.

How do you manage your work / life balance?

I work very flexibly, and not always 9-5, which is one of the benefits of running your own business. I fit things in where I can, but work is a big part of my life and I enjoy it so I don’t mind both things merging together. I find it’s the only way that it works for me personally.

How do manage mum guilt?

It’s a difficult one. I think children thrive on routine, so for me as long as mine know when I am going to be there and when I’m not they are pretty chilled. I also have an amazing nanny who I couldn’t do without – she allows me to do my job whilst knowing the children are in safe and happy hands which is vital for me. Of course I feel guilty when I forget the ballet shoes or don’t remember that football club has been cancelled, but this can happen to anyone, job or no job, and my children know they are my number one priority. I have always worked so they also see that as normal, I think they would find it strange if I was there all the time!

How did you get over the feeling of missing your baby when you went back to work

I am very lucky in that I work flexibly, so whilst I didn’t take much maternity leave, I was able to pop in and out. I have horrible memories of pumping in the loos when I was on an entrepreneurs accelerator and my youngest was only 6 weeks old, which was a step too far looking back! I have a happy home, a very supportive husband and a wonderful setup with my nanny so I couldn’t ask for more on that front. Thankfully the children are always happy to see me when I come home and that has always been the case. If that changes, I’ll know there is something really wrong!

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Top Ten Sods Laws of Parenting

‘It’s like raaaiiinnnn on your wedding day. It’s a giant poo, when you’re already late.’

No matter how recently you’ve changed them, the second you place a fully dressed baby in the car seat they will instantly soil themselves. The more layers, the higher the probability. If they’re wearing a pram suit, it’s practically a given.

They NEVER nap, except when you desperately need them not to.

Shout out to the Mum’s reading this from the car outside their house; temporarily incarcerated by the small snoring human in the car seat in the back. Said small child can easily stay awake for an entire 6 hour road trip; yet somehow develops narcolepsy the second you need them to stay awake for a short drive to the supermarket.

The one time you forget the spare clothes, you will never need them more.

We’ve been hauling round a Spiderman backpack stuffed with more outfit changes than a Cher concert for the last 2 years; the ONE TIME we leave it at home you can bet your bottom dollar you’ll be wiping their arse with your socks and fashioning them a pair of trousers out of a old towel you found in the boot.

Nothing cures kids faster than a trip to the Doctors waiting room.

Following stern words with the receptionist to secure the appointment (‘Yes it’s urgent Karen, I KNOW MY OWN CHILD OKAY?!”) the kid, previously at death’s door; springs back to life the instant their name is called. This leaves you wishing they were slightly more unwell than they now appear, so the Doctor won’t think you’re a crazed hypochondriac.

Oh Ducking Hell

You’ve been forking out £15 a lesson for Baby Spanish for an entire year with not so much as a ‘Hola’ back; but guaranteed the ONE TIME you tell Daddy to go fuck himself and THAT’S the word they repeat.

‘Oh they won’t eat that’*

*Unless they’re at your Mother-in-Law’s, or at nursery, or in the care of literally anyone else but you.

The week you go back to work they will be ill like they’ve never been ill before.

You: Wants to prove you’re a capable, together individual who can juggle motherhood and her career, no problem. Also You: Has to call IT on day 2 because the baby vommed on her Macbook.

You can’t wait for a night out, only to spend every second missing them like hell

It’s a universally accepted truth that you’ll spend the entire evening scrolling through your camera roll and discussing your baby’s bowel movements. Extra points if you’ve got pictures on your phone of your baby’s bowel movements.

The one day you forget the pram

You’ll have to carry the kid around like a 20lb kettlebell until your arms feel like they’re about to fall off.

The moment you think you’ve got this shit down

It all changes and you realise you haven’t got a clue.

I Was Scared and Thought I was Miscarrying

Trigger warning: this article mentions comments surrounding miscarriage.

AUTHOR: ANON

I was around 6 weeks pregnant when I noticed a spot of bleeding when I went to the toilet during the night. I was scared and devastated. It had taken us a while to become pregnant with our second child, so I automatically feared that the small speck of blood was indication that I was miscarrying. Shaken, I woke my partner up immediately and made an urgent appointment to see my GP. During my appointment, after a quick round of questions, I was sent to the Early Pregnancy Unit at my local hospital where I sat among a throng of women who all looked equally worried and petrified about the health of their baby and viability of their pregnancy. I waited hours to be seen, but finally was able to be checked out by a doctor who scanned my bump and asked a series of questions. She thankfully confirmed that all appeared well, that I wasn’t having a miscarriage, and that some women would bleed during some stage of their pregnancy.

As soon as I exited the hospital building, I burst out into tears. I was feeling relieved, thankful, but also seriously vulnerable because I didn’t feel I had received adequate information as to why the bleeding had occurred. I would experience bleeding once again during later pregnancy (at around week 25), but again the hospital checked me out, monitored me for several hours and thankfully said there was nothing to worry about. When my baby finally arrived 6 weeks later, I was in the euphoric state that most of us experience after finally meeting our baby, but also exhausted by the load off my mind that I had carried for 9 months.

Bleeding during pregnancy is quite common and doesn’t automatically mean that you are experiencing a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy (around 1 in 4 will unfortunately result in miscarriage), so it’s important to seek medical advice if it does occur. But if like me, you had more questions than answers following your experience of bleeding, read on to learn about the most common causes.

Causes of bleeding in early pregnancy (before 12 weeks)

Implantation bleeding

Implantation refers to when the fertilised egg attaches itself to the wall of the womb, and it occurs around the same time your period would’ve been due. Some women experience implantation bleeding around 8 weeks into their pregnancy, and it tends to show up as spotting/ light bleeding that you’ll likely become aware of after wiping when you use the toilet. “During the first trimester, many women will experience some sort of bleeding”, explains Abbas Kanani, pharmacist at Chemist Click. “This is caused by implantation, when the fertilised egg implants itself into the womb. This type of bleeding can last for a few days and is often mistaken for a light period. Other common causes can include infection, as the flora inside the vagina changes. This is not life threatening to the mother or baby and your doctor will advise whether antibiotics are required. Your immune system may even be able to clear the infection without treatment.”

Blood clot around the sac

Another potential reason why women may discover blood during their pregnancy is due to blood clotting around the sac. This manifests as a mass of blood situated between the placenta and the uterus walls, and although it’s not quite understood why it happens, it can be alarming for pregnant women although it doesn’t signal an impending miscarriage. Michelle Swer, consultant gynaecologist at London Gynaecology says, “Blood clots around the sac are often seen on a scan and does not usually affect the pregnancy but can lead to bleeding until the sac resolves. The bleeding usually turns brown in colour in keeping with old blood. She continues, “It is important that any bleeding especially as a first occurrence, or if you have a known underlying placental complication, is investigated to ensure it is not something more serious and that there is no need for further investigations or management.”

Cervical changes

When we become pregnant our body goes through so many changes, one of which is changes to our cervix that becomes softer and has a richer blood supply. This, as a subsequence, can often lead to bleeding. “During pregnancy, your body experiences changes, including changes to the cervix, where more blood vessels grow” says Abbas Kanani. “This can cause the cervix to bleed more easily during pregnancy.”

Early pregnancy problems

Sadly, bleeding during pregnancy can also be an indicator of an impending miscarriage, and this will occur in 1 in 4 women. “Bleeding with pain is associated with miscarriage”, says Michelle Swer. “This can be identified on a scan or women may need more than one scan to confirm the diagnosis. It is also important to rule out an ectopic pregnancy which is when the pregnancy implants outside the womb. As you can see there are a number of reasons for bleeding in pregnancy but the one that causes the greatest anxiety is the risk of miscarriage and rightly so. The ordeal women go through when bleeding due to a miscarriage varies so much hence it has been difficult to make sure that all accounts are taken into consideration. However, I feel it is important that each presentation is acknowledged, and women should be aware of each end of the spectrum so they can know when to seek advice in a timely fashion.”

Causes of bleeding in late pregnancy (24 weeks onwards)

Bleeding is rare during the 2nd trimester, but during the 3rd, there are three conditions that are uncommon but are still worth noting so that women are aware of them. Michelle Swer, consultant gynaecologist at London Gynaecology, outlines them.

Low lying placenta.
This is when the placenta lies low in the womb close or lying over the cervix. This will be identified on scan usually at 20 weeks and women will have a repeat scan to identify where the placenta is closer to delivery. Any bleeding in a woman diagnosed with a low-lying placenta should be seen by a doctor to ensure there is no risk of delivery which would not be suitable naturally.

Placenta Accreta Spectrum.
This occurs when the placenta attaches deep through the muscle wall and does not easily detach. This is also identified on a scan and urgent review is needed if there is bleeding in women diagnosed with this presentation.

Abruption of the placenta.
This is when the placenta comes away from the womb and is a serious and acute condition. There is often pain and bleeding and women should seek urgent medical advice.

The 10 Biggest Challenges of Having a Newborn in Summer

Keeping Their Room Cool

The Gro-Egg is fucking furious. At this point, we wouldn’t be surprised if it started to emit steam and whistle like an old-fashioned kettle. We’ve considered investing in a Dyson fan, but we’ve not wasted £500 on something we’d only use for 5 days of the year since those heels we bought shortly before getting pregnant.

Always Wear Sunscreen

Unless you’re a baby under one, in which case apparently that’s not a thing. Instead, the advice is just to ‘keep them out of the sun entirely’ which is pretty bloody impossible unless you adopt the nocturnal habits of a hamster.

Heat Rash

Oh good, another random skin affliction for us to panic about.

Pin The Hat On The Baby

Can’t hold their head up properly, but can quite adequately swat off a bucket hat within 5 seconds of you putting it on.

I Can’t Get No Sleep

The Good News: Hot weather actually knocks kids out, so chances are they might actually sleep longer than usual. The Bad News: You’ll be waking up every 45 minutes to check they’re not too hot/cold/sweaty/dehydrated.

Babies and The Beach Do Not Mix

Pre-baby, you spent afternoons at the beach reading trashy novels and working on your tan. These days, you find yourself constantly shouting ‘DON’T PUT THE SAND IN YOUR MOUTH’ and adjusting the UV tent to track the path of the sun like a human sundial.

Bedtime Is a Minefield

Sleeping bag or no sleeping bag? Blankie or no blankie? Sleepsuit or no sleep suit? Every page on Google has a different answer.

Car Seat Meltdown

No matter which direction you’re driving in, you can guarantee this sun is piercing through the back seat window like a kid frying an ant with a magnifying glass.

Hydration Is Key

Except they can’t have water. Or is it just bottled water? And how bloody difficult is it to cool boiled water when it’s hotter than the sun outside?!

To Pram Or Not To Pram

We’d use the carrier, if we weren’t so worried about drowning them in our under-boob sweat. Those snooze shades look great, but they also feel like the inside of a balmy tent at V-Festival.

TMC Family Recipe Of The Week: Easy Peasy Mac n Cheese

Can creamy, cheesy stovetop mac and cheese perfection be achieved with just four ingredients? You bet your buttons—and this easy macaroni and cheese recipe proves it.

Ingredients

1 lb Dried elbow macaroni
1 cup Heavy cream
6 oz Cheddar cheese, shredded (roughly 2 cups)
3/4 cup Good quality parmesan cheese, shredded
1/2 tsp Salt, optional
1/2 tsp Pepper, optional
Sriracha sauce, optional

Method

In a large pot bring 4 quarts of water to a boil. Season water with 2 tsp salt. Cook pasta in boiling water according to package instructions.
While pasta is cooking, heat cream in a heavy saucepan or cast iron skillet over medium heat until cream begins to bubble. Add in the cheeses along with ½ tsp salt and ½ tsp pepper. Stir cheese sauce until bubbly and the cheese has melted, 5-7 minutes stirring often.
Once the noodles are cooked, add drained pasta to the cheese sauce and stir until combined.
If desired, top with a heavy dose of sriracha sauce. Enjoy!

Top Educational Apps To Take The Guilt Out Of Screen Time

We know. You never thought you’d be ‘that’ parent, but reaching for a screen makes life a easier sometimes and that has to be ok. And if we told you that familiarity with an iPad is part of the official curriculum? Yup, all early years settings use electronic devices, so while we’re not saying let them at it 24/7, a reasonable window of time combined with a supervised edit of apps… well, you get to pee/drink coffee/do the washing in peace, and they’ll be coding by the age of three. Almost.

The following apps are compatible with Apple and Amazon Fire. Now go and out that kettle on, no mum guilt required.

Reading Eggs

Hands down our most used app after Citymapper, this reading program is stuffed with games, songs and other educational activities suitable for kids from two to 13. They start with basic phonics before moving on to stretching their vocab, reading comprehension and fluency in a super-fun and interactive way. It’s about the price of one and a half Starbucks lattes per month, but you can try it for free for 30 days, and then chose from various payments options, including a family subscription or one-off yearly fee.

Play Osmo

This award-winning play system isn’t cheap; you’ll need the Osmo base for your digital device and a reflector to pop over its camera (the system is all about merging the real world with the digital) before you can start buying games bundles, but it’s customisable to your child’s interests (there’s a Disney Princess bundle, for example) and they’ll have hours of fun while also acing maths, spelling, drawing and problem solving of all kinds. Starting at age three and going all the way up to 12, it’s an investment for the whole family.

DoodleMaths, DoodleEnglish and DoodleSpell

Say it louder for the parents at the back; if not free, this collection of maths and English apps for primary school-age children is pretty cheap and has you covered with times tables, spelling, punctuation etc, all targeted to your child’s ability. It sends motivational messages to help keep them driven and eager to learn (we can only hope, right?) and if that’s not enough you can track their progress in the DoodleConnect App. Then they really can’t get away with doing nothing…!

Alpha Blocks

Based on the brilliant CBeebies show, this one is entirely free – though you can inject some pennies into it if you feel like upgrading. It’s great for getting your littles to focus on sounds and blending, and a great opportunity to follow up what they’ve learnt while watching TV.

Number Blocks

Just like Alphablocks but for numbers, again based on the BBC show. This fun app helps your little ones to learn their numbers and figure their way through simple mathematical problems.

Teach Your Monster To Read

These award-winning games have a BAFTA nomination under their belt and are free to use if you log onto the website from your computer (or pay £4.99 to download the app). Kids follow a magical journey, picking up rewards and meeting various characters as they learn everything from blending sounds to reading full sentences, depending on their level. Imaginative, colourful and thoughtfully put together, it will tick all their boxes – and yours too.

Hit The Button

£2.99 and worth every penny, with a huge selection of quick-fire mathematical games and activities that are as addictive for adults as they are for kids. Basic to look at but impossible to walk away from.

TMC Family Recipe Of The Week: Watermelon & Feta Salad

Watermelon feta salad is one of those flavor combinations that sounds odd, but just works SO well together. Add some mint to the mix, and you’ve got a fresh and colourful side dish that everyone will love.

Ingredients

700 g watermelon
1 small red onion
180 g feta cheese
1 bunch of fresh mint
extra virgin olive oil

Method

Scoop out and chop the watermelon flesh into chunks, discarding the peel.
Peel and finely slice the onion, crumble the feta, then pick the mint leaves, tearing any larger ones.
Place it all into a bowl and combine.
Drizzle over a little oil and season with black pepper.

Recipe from Jamie Oliver

6 Things We Learnt From Binge-Watching Sex/Life

The 8-part Netflix series Sex/Life has been dominating our social media feeds since its debut in July and for good reason. The super steamy, sex-charged drama series tells the story of a Billie (Sarah Shani), a stunning wife and mother who lives a perfectly manicured life replete with gorgeously handsome hubby, cute kids and a spacious house in the burbs. But of course, there’s a problem. Billie is bored. She longs to relive her own version of the roaring twenties, and return to the days when she was running the streets with her bestie indulging in toe-curling sexploits in the spirit of Carrie Bradshaw, Samantha et al. It’s at this point we are introduced to her old flame, Brad (Adam Demos). Brad is sexy. Brad is confident. Brad is naughty. Brad is bad. His reappearance in Billie’s life has her questioning her safe and secure marriage and pondering the age-old question on whether as women we can truly have it all. After binge-watching the series in a day or two, here are some key observations we had of Sex/Life. Beware: major spoiler alerts ahead.

1. There’s no such thing as happily ever after

From a young age we’re indoctrinated with the belief that we’ll be truly happy once we land a dream job, get married, have kids and live in a big house. And no matter how much we evolve as a society and critique outdated societal conventions, deep down the little girl in us who read all the classic fairy tale books still holds this to be true. In Sex/Life protagonist Billie was tormented by the fact that on paper her life looked enviably perfect, and yet, she still felt empty inside. This serves as a reminder that happiness is not a destination. Even when you tick all the items off life’s to-do list you’ll still be faced with the emotional ups and downs that come with being human.

2. Our fun, frivolous years were great but probably best left in the past.

When you’re knee deep in the unrelenting cycle of round the clock nappy changes, sleepless nights and sore nipples during the early years of motherhood, it’s tempting to look back at your fun, frivolous child-free years and romanticise it. In Billie’s case, she was looking after a newborn and an infant simultaneously, living in the suburbs isolated from her true friends, and yearning for some attention from her husband who was frequently absent due to his work commitments. It was inevitable that she’d begin to think back to the past when she had a bustling social life, exciting sex life and a thriving career. We have a tendency to view the past with rose tinted glasses while glossing over the less savoury bits. In reality, those days came with its own set of challenges for most of us, think: commitment phobe dudes, bank accounts permanently in the red, and narcissistic bosses who would give Miranda Priestly a run for her money. The beauty of life is that each stage of it comes with its own set of unique gifts. Let the past stay in the past and embrace the present and all that the future has to offer.

3. Your sex life doesn’t have to be PG-rated because you’re a mum.

Billie was hesitant to show her husband her freakier side for fear of judgement, after all, she’s a mother of two now, right?* places tongue firmly in cheek*. Isn’t it baffling (and frustrating) that despite the sexual revolution and the current sex positivity movement, society still has a habit of deferring to the Madonna vs whore complex, viewing women as either saints or sluts. The consequence of this is women can be reluctant to experiment and explore the full spectrum of their sexuality once they tie the knot for fear of being seen as some kind of wanton sexual deviant. It’s such a counter-productive situation, as true intimacy can only occur when we show up as our authentic selves and bare our soul (porn star fantasies ‘n’ all) in its entirety to our significant other.

4. It’s okay to be honest – motherhood can suck sometimes

Billie fell victim to doing what so many of us do as mothers – bottling up our true feelings when it comes to the challenges of motherhood. While everything appeared perfect on paper – gorgeous hubby, adorable kids, enviable home – there was still an emptiness, a gnawing away at her soul as she still felt unfulfilled in other aspects of her life such as her career, which she had put aside to prioritise her family. We’d save ourselves from so much despair if we open up about how difficult motherhood can get sometimes. The thing is, we all experience similar feelings of exhaustion, loneliness, low mood, lack of confidence, but at the time we’re going through it, it can feel like we’re the only one. Don’t be afraid to take the first step and confide in a fellow mummy that although you love your babies dearly, things can feel a bit crappy at times.

5. The infamous shower scene in episode 3

Sorry, we’ve got nothing profound to say here other than, wow, did you see it? (I mean, how could you NOT?) *insert jaw drop emoji*

6. Password protection exists for a reason

Oh Billie, this could’ve all been so easily avoided. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with daydreaming about trysts with ex-lovers, or even ruminating about all the naughty things you’d like to do to Chris Hemsworth or Michael B. Jordan, but maybe next time keep those thoughts in your head, girl. Or if you insist on writing a steamy confessional reminiscing over Brad’s masterful cunnilingus skills, at least keep a password on your laptop to avoid the prying eyes of your hubby.

TMC Family Recipe Of The Week: Avocado & Chocolate Ice Lollies

Ingredients

1 avocado
1 banana
2tbsp raw cacao
2tbsp maple syrup
1tsp lemon juice
1 cup almond milk

Method

Peel avocado and banana.
Place into a blender with cacao, maple syrup, lemon juice, half the amount of almond milk and blend until smooth.
Slowly add the rest of the almond milk until you achieve the desired consistency. Pour into prepared ice lolly moulds, insert ice lolly sticks and freeze for at least 3 hours, better overnight.
(You can replace maple syrup with some raw honey or medjool date.)

TMC Talks To Christie Wollenberg Creative Director & Co-Founder Of Otiumberg

Let’s face it being a mum is a big enough job on its own. It’s a full time commitment with no pay and mad hours! So adding ANOTHER full time job to the mix is not only very impressive but also massively inspiring. We recently spoke to Otiumberg, Demi-Fine Jewellery Co-Founder Christie Wollenberg to find out how she manages it all..

Explain what you do in a sentence?

I am creative Director and Co-Founder of Otiumberg, the British Demi-Fine jewellery brand.

How long have you done your job?

We founded Otiumberg in 2016, so 5 years. Prior to that, I had roles in communications at Burberry and Louis Vuitton.

What’s the coolest thing about it?

That my co-founder (Rosanna, my sister) and I created a brand we love and are proud of. that we oversee every part of the business and it’s a wonderful feeling to see the brand grow. That everything we have done has come organically, from saving the initial cash to start we have build the brand from the ground with no external investment

What does your day or week entail?

I am a Mum of 3 under 5 so it’s all a massive balancing act. When I am not on maternity leave (my youngest, Leo was born 10 weeks ago) I try to be in the office at least 3 days a week but always try to reserve Friday as a day with my kids. When I am in the office it’s all about sitting with the team, solving problems and meeting with partners. When I am at home, that’s when I do my best creative work. At the moment I am breastfeeding so whilst I am technically on maternity leave I obviously don’t want to just switch off for six months. I try to catch an hour here and there to answer some emails, think about the next collection and chat to my sister to see what’s been going on in other areas of the business. Having a sister as a co-founder means we have a natural alignment that most co-founders might not find. It’s reassuring to have that trust and to know that we’re looking out for each other.

Where did you start out?

My first job out of Uni was at Burberry as a junior buyer and then as time went on I moved into PR, events and VIP. I learnt a lot during those years as it was and still is one of the major fashion brands in the world. I then moved with my boyfriend (now husband) to the Middle East and got the opportunity to work for another fashion powerhouse, Louis Vuitton. The experience I had in this role, working across the Middle East region would prove very useful for Otiumberg.

What has been your biggest challenge?

Definitely juggling being a mum and running my own business however, there was a moment a few years ago. I was living in a flat where I was running Otiumberg from and one evening we got broken into and the whole collection was stolen. We literally had to start all over again and rebuild the collection. It was a massive lesson and we moved on and got stronger from thereon. They broke in when we were all asleep so it was pretty shocking and upsetting.

How have you found working with family?

From a business perspective, it’s incredible because we are so instinctively aligned. There is 100% trust. From a personal perspective it can be challenging as it’s easy to forget we need sister time too where we don’t talk about work and enjoy each other’s company away from Otiumberg.

What piece of advice would you give to someone hoping to do the same?

I think it’s key to be kind to yourself. If you have young kids, understand that there will be days you won’t be able to do as much as you want work-wise, on the flip side, some days you won’t be with your kids as much as you wanted because you got caught up in work. The key is acceptance and it’s something I still struggle with.

Something you’ve learnt that is crucial to either your job or to success?

Appreciate where you are and celebrate your successes. It’s very easy to achieve a goal and immediately raise the bar again. It’s important to look back and see how far you and your business have come.

How important is it to switch off?

Very! But it’s not easy. You have to want to switch off and if I’m honest, subconsciously, I think there’s always a part of me that wants to know what’s going on!

How do you manage your work / life balance?

It’s a constant struggle. I don’t think there is such a thing as HI balance, at least not for me, but believe that you have to try and focus on one thing at a time in order to get through each day. You have to know that you can’t necessarily control what your day looks like as you have little humans that rely on you. I manage each day by knowing that it will be slightly unpredictable, sometimes stressful sometimes incredibly satisfying!

How do manage mum guilt?

When i’m working at the office i’m so busy that my mind is focused on the business. It’s when I’m picking up my son from school and he’s so happy to see me that I feel bad I can’t do this every day. I manage the guilt by knowing that i’m a happier and better mum when I’m creative at work and am doing what I love.

How did you get over the feeling of missing your baby when you went back to work?

It’s tough and emotional but I also know that I’m doing the best I can for my kids and want them to one day be proud of what their Auntie and I have achieved!

Shop the full Otiumberg collection here .

17 Summer Dresses That You Can Wear With Or Without A Bump

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The downside to being pregnant through the winter months is maternity wear comes in the form of leggings, mostly. Despite the insane sweats, and all the summer FOMO dressing a bump over summer is definitely more fun. Long floaty, non-maternity maternity dresses. Ones you can keep and love forever. Here are 17 of our favourites.

Pregnancy-Safe Skin Care: What To Use And What To Avoid.

Pregnancy can throw up a number of skin concerns including acne, dryness and sensitivity, alongside stubborn areas of pigmentation. Often women find the products they were using before pregnancy no longer address their skin concerns, likely owing to the changes in hormones and immune function. Added to this the uncertainty about what is and isn’t safe to use in pregnancy and breast feeding and it quickly becomes quite overwhelming.

We spoke to Dr Jo Mennie who advised us that there is no need to abandon all active skin care routines. Luckily there are a number of great active ingredients that can address skin concerns in pregnancy safely. The trick is knowing how and when to use these and how to layer products together for maximum results. It is always advisable to consult with a doctor who specialises in pregnancy skincare during your pregnancy as they can assess your skin needs and tailor their recommendations safely for you.

During pregnancy owing to safety concerns, it is recommended to avoid all retinoids including oral and topical treatments. These need to be avoided for at least 3 months prior to becoming pregnant. It is also advised to avoid skin lightening agents including hydroquinine and alpha arbutin, and any products containing CBD. Salicylic acid is often discussed as an ingredient to avoid, however with individual guidance from a doctor it can be used topically in percentages up to 2%. Dr Jo Mennie’s advice would be to transition to a safe and effective skin care routine ideally before becoming pregnant.

Top 4 Ingredients To Look Out For

Alpha Hydroxy Acids.

These acids act as chemical exfoliants – sloughing off the top layer of dead skin cells and increasing new cell turnover which helps even out skin tone, reduce blocked pores, and improve fine lines. Depending on which AHA there are additional benefits such as improving hyperpigmentation and increasing collagen and elastin production. Lactic Acid is a good AHA to use during pregnancy as it retains the most moisture in the skin comparative to other AHAs and is the least likely to irritate or dry. Incorporating your AHA into your cleanser with Cosmedix’s Lactic Acid Rx Cleanser is a great option.

Vitamin C.

Vitamin C is a hero ingredient important whether pregnant or not, and luckily safe to use throughout your pregnancy journey. It is a potent anti-oxidant that increases collagen and elastin in the skin and inhibits the enzyme responsible for pigment production. Look out for percentages above 10% to get the full benefit.

SPF.

During pregnancy it is so important to be wearing SPF daily. From the first trimester there is an increase in potential pigment production owing to an increase in circulating oestrogen and progesterone. By the end of the third trimester this can lead to the development of melasma or the mask of pregnancy. Avoiding sun exposure and using SPF 50 will minimise this. During pregnancy mineral based sunscreens are preferred.

Azelaic acid

Perfect to help combat any pregnancy acne or blocked pores. Azelaic acid has powerful antibacterial properties that inhibit the bacteria responsible for breakouts and acne on the face. It prevents pores blocking through softening the top layer of skin cells and also provides an anti-inflammatory effect. I would recommend Dr David Jack’s Blue Face Peel containing Azelaic acid once a week. This is formulated with additional hyaluronic acid which will also help to plump and hydrate at the same time.

With a bit of guidance most skin concerns should be able to be treated during pregnancy and the elusive pregnancy glow ubiquitous. With the emergence of several great new products which use safe yet effective active ingredients a lot of the routines I advise for women last during pregnancy and beyond. Important for those women planning on multiple pregnancy or struggling over the years with fertility.

Dr Jo Mennie offers online skin consultations via GetHarley specialising in fertility, and pregnancy skincare

www.getharley.com

10 Most Tedious Parenting Tasks

It goes without saying; we love our children. But let’s not pretend that ‘life’s greatest adventure’ is as action-packed and interesting as it appears on Instagram. Some bits are really bloody boring. Here’s our TMC guide to the most tedious of parenting tasks…

Watching the Same Disney Film Over and Over Again.

Don’t get us wrong, we LOVED Frozen; the first seven or eight times we watched it. But it’s been playing on a loop for 3 years now and we’ll level with you; it’s really starting to do our head in.

Going To The Park

Hanging around the same swings every day was way more fun when we were 15 and there was vodka involved.

Bedtime

Let’s be honest; there is nothing relaxing about bedtime. You’ve brought the wrong pyjamas, they’re hungry/too hot/too cold/need a drink/need a wee. There’s the dramatic reading of (the same) story over and over again (SURPRISE: Spot is in the basket!) which all inevitably ends with a scavenger hunt around the entire house and you muttering ‘where the fuck is the fucking blanket?’

Waking up Early

The only 5am starts we’re up for involve airports and holidays.

The School Run

IT’S THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY. No sooner have you dropped them off, battled your way through the 17 loads of laundry, emptied the dishwasher and tidied 2378979 bricks of lego, and hey-presto! It’s time to pick them up again.

‘PLAY WITH ME’

If you’ve ever seriously considered having another baby just so your child will have someone else who will willingly want to play shop for 3 hours straight without losing their minds; we feel you. You are not alone.

Walking Any Distance With A Toddler

MOVE IT ALONG PEOPLE. Nothing worse than them refusing to get in the pram, especially if it’s pissing it down and you’re moving along at a snail’s pace stopping for every puddle/stick/dog that you pass along the way.

The Scooter

If there is a single parent alive who claims to have managed an entire walk without carrying back the scooter under one arm and the kid under the other; we’re calling bullshit.

The Night Feed

MUST. STAY. AWAKE. Made extra irritating by the apparently oblivious snoring co-parent next to you.

Crouching Next To Them Waiting For Them To Poo

Just you and a cold bathroom floor, waiting for the plop.

TMC Talks To Jasmine Wicks-Stephens Founder Of Faace.

Let’s face it being a mum is a big enough job on its own. It’s a full time commitment with no pay and mad hours! So adding ANOTHER full time job to the mix is not only very impressive but also massively inspiring. We recently spoke to Faace , Fuss-free skincare Founder Jasmine Wicks-Stephens to find out how she manages it all..

Explain what you do in a sentence?

I own and run two businesses, a communications agency, Known, and skincare brand, Faace.

How long have you done your job?

Communications for brands, 15 years, beauty brand owner, 3 years (if you include development time).

What’s the coolest thing about it?

That I get to be creative every day. Whether that’s for my own brand, or other people’s, I love the fact that there is variety in every day and I get to do work I am genuinely passionate and excited about.

What does your day or week entail?

Personally, it involves being a mum, wife, daughter, friend and all the errands that come with that (I won’t bore you with the details as I’m sure you’re all well aware). Work-wise, Zoom meetings with clients to give advice on how they can meet their individual goals, team meetings to help them do great work on all projects and to brainstorm ideas, copywriting, creative direction on projects.

Where did you start out?

My Uncle was involved with a fashion brand, Paul Costello, and I did my first work experience placement at a London agency who looked after then. I soon realised I loved PR, but perhaps wasn’t cut out for fashion. I then fell into beauty, through a chance meeting, when a larger than life character came into the pub I was working in and befriended me (we’re still friends), and as we got talking and drinking, she and I hatched a plan for me to start working at an agency she worked at. After a brilliant and crazy 18 months there I moved on, and progressed from agency to agency, until setting up my own.

What has been your biggest challenge?

Running two businesses and being a good mum, wife, friend, family member, I always feel a bit like I’m letting someone down. Not overcome that one yet either…

What piece of advice would you give to someone hoping to do the same?

Don’t get into this industry if a very hectic environment stresses you out. You need to enjoy working at a really fast pace. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to coast a long a bit, in fact I can really see the benefits of that. But, if you want to get into comms, wherever you work, you always have to enjoy going the extra, or it could leave you feeling overwhelmed, frazzled and not in a good way.

Something you’ve learnt that is crucial to either your job or to success

I think a really important lesson in life is to be tolerant and consider what someone else might be going through. I used to take things more personally when I was younger. And what I’ve learnt, as I’ve grown up is tolerance, empathy and understanding of the fact other people might have things going on, that you know absolutely nothing about. I think if you have that in mind, it makes things a bit easier.

How important is it to switch off?

Probably very, but I am not the right person to ask that of.

How do you manage your work / life balance?

Although I work long hours sometimes, I also try and treat myself to random times off that I wouldn’t if I was employed. For example, I’m not a morning person, so would rather chill a bit when I get up, so, if Frank (my son), isn’t at pre-school and wants me to sit and watch a film with him at 7am, then sometimes I will. I know, that if I start work at 10am, it doesn’t actually matter, as I’m always going to catch up another time, as that’s just in my nature.

How do manage mum guilt?

I don’t really get that anymore. For a very long time I did. Frank used to prefer my husband to me (and I mean for like a year), not just a phase. That was really tough. I never took maternity leave and so my husband and I just did everything 50/50. I felt like it was my fault he hadn’t taken to me like a ‘proper mum’, as I hadn’t invested the time in him. But now, he’s three and a half and he likes me just as much as my husband. I’ve just accepted that he was just a baby, that it probably wasn’t my fault, and now, I just want him to be happy with whoever is looking after him. So as long as he’s happy, I don’t really feel guilty.

How did you get over the feeling of missing your baby when you went back to work?

I didn’t take any maternity leave. I used to just juggle the two like a crazy person (I think, I don’t actually recall).