The Best UK Spas to Book NowRead More Need a break? But don’t want to book an expensive spa that’s not worth the money? Before becoming TMC’s Editor, Lydia House was a Beauty Editor for over 10 years. … Post author By The Mum Club Post date 31 August 2023 The Best UK Spas to Book Now Need a break? But don’t want to book an expensive spa that’s not worth the money? Before becoming TMC’s Editor, Lydia House was a Beauty Editor for over 10 years. And seeing as she’s been to nearly all of them (we’re not jealous at all!) we’ve asked her to share her honest review of the best spas in the UK. From the one she can’t fault, to the place you need to book with caution. These are her favourite spots to relax and unwind. Book one today and receive all the pampering you deserve. Best Spa for a Solo Stay Champneys Forest Mere PROS + Guests walk around in robes + Exceptional treatments + State-of-the-art facilities + Tons of areas to explore + An outside pool + Beautiful grounds and scenery + Fitness classes, if that’s your thing + Great value CONS – My room was a bit noisy (but they upgraded me) Book Now “I booked this as a treat before I had my second baby and loved it. You just can’t beat Champneys when it comes to spa breaks. They have so much experience at getting it right, and the therapists are trained to a t. And like all Champneys resorts, guests happily saunter around in their dressing gowns, making it the perfect place to unwind. On this stay, I asked to move rooms as mine was next to an air-con unit, and they upgraded me to a much bigger room that overlooked the lake. I was in heaven! I went on my own, and honestly, it was incredible. I didn’t feel weird at all. I also used the spa when most people were at dinner, and there were only 2-3 other people in there. But it never felt crowded, even during the day. I’d say that some of the food is a bit average. It’s not awful, just not out of this world. But for dinner, I ordered room service, and for me, food always tastes better when you’re sitting in a dressing gown, eating it on a plush hotel bed, and watching whatever you want. I was blown away by the areas in the spa. From ice rooms to rainforest showers, there’s tons of places to relax, or even nap. I’d go back in a flash.” Best Luxury Health Spa Herb House Spa, Lime Wood Hotel PROS + Stunning location + Beautiful rooms + Great outside area CONS + It’s expensive Book Now “If six-star hotels existed, this would be one. I stayed and used the spa on a work trip and have always wanted to return. Its picturesque setting is in the middle of the New Forest and you see wild horses roaming free on your drive-in. The spa is so lovely and a great one to go to in summer as the outside area makes you feel like you’re abroad. They have a health focus in the Herb House Spa with nutritious juices and healthy meals on offer. And the treatments are by Bamford and Sarah Chapman, so you know you’re in good hands. The rooms in the hotel are stunning but sadly quite expensive, so you need a large budget. But if you can treat yourself, you won’t regret it. During your stay, you’re made to feel like you live there (if only!). The food is exceptional, and the hotel bar makes for some cool after-dinner drinks.” Best Spa for Couples Lucknam Park PROS + Stunning pool + Incredible food + Beautiful grounds + Cosy, homely feel + Good for couples CONS – The spa was crowded at certain times of the day – It’s pricey Book now “Make sure you use the spa at night. My husband and I did this; it was empty and pure heaven. A few people came in while we were there, but not many. They have a fire by the pool, and it’s magical if you manage to get it to yourself. I was pregnant during this stay too. And as pregnancy massages go (if you know, you know), mine was pretty good. The hotel is stunning too. The long drive up is like something out of Pride and Prejudice, and the staff are so welcoming. It has a lovely, homely feel despite its grandeur. The food is incredible, and they have two options for dinner, one Michelin-star restaurant and a brasserie. We went for the brasserie, which was exceptional, so who knows what the other one is like. They also have their own pastry chef, so if you have a sweet tooth, it’s well worth booking in for an afternoon tea.” Best Spa for Adventure Brimstone Spa PROS + Beautiful setting + Stunning facilities + Great food + Modern rooms + Lots to do + A room with free snacks CONS – Not sure there is one Book now “It’s hard to fault this spa hotel. They’ve thought of everything. It’s also set in the most beautiful location, just made for relaxing. I went to review it when it first opened, and the fresh scent of the countryside mixed with smokey fires still sticks in my mind. Everything about Brimstone feels heavenly. The hotel even has a reading room filled with complimentary snacks and drinks (including wine!) that makes for a welcome treat if you’ve been adventuring on walks. The spa’s outside area has a gorgeous fire, jacuzzi and sauna that you’ll never want to leave. And inside is just as good, with lots of rooms to unwind in. The food in the restaurant is delicious too. Really, there’s nothing bad I can say about it, and I’d happily go back in a heartbeat.” Best Spa for Peace & Quiet Cottonmill Spa at Sopwell House PROS + State-of-the-art treatments and facilities + Peace and quiet + Day spa packages CONS – It’s £100 a day extra to use the spa if staying in the hotel – A bit limited if you’re pregnant Book Now “My husband and I went here on a mini break before we had our first baby. We booked a costly hotel package with dinner and spa treatments, but when we checked into the Cottonmill Spa, they said we had to pay another £100 per person to use the new facilities, which made no sense. We complained, and they wavered it, but hopefully, they’ve made it more transparent. But double-check before you book. Anyway, once you’re in, it’s completely worth it. I’ve never been to a spa that’s so quiet. Maybe that’s why they charge so much! The facilities are beautiful inside and out and have some fantastic treatments you can try. Sadly, I was pregnant, so I couldn’t utilise everything, but I still had a great time and spent hours there. Our hotel room was a bit disappointing for the cost, but the food and waiting staff were sublime, which made up for it. If I returned, I’d book a day spa package and maybe stay locally in an Airbnb.” Best Spa in a Countryside Hotel Barnsley House PROS + Beautiful grounds + Outside Hydro Pool + Homely luxury hotel + Stunning rooms + Brilliant food CONS – Not a big spa Book Now “It feels a bit rogue to put this on here as the spa isn’t hugely impressive and it’s mainly an outside hydro pool and not much else. But it’s one of the nicest places I’ve ever stayed and the only treatment I’ve ever fallen asleep in. There’s just something about Barnsley House that makes you feel instantly relaxed the minute you walk through the door. It’s like going to your parent’s house, but your parents own a beautiful county mansion in the Cotswolds, and they’re incredible cooks that wine and dine you the whole time. Elemis resided here when I visited, but now the treatments are run by Aromatherapy Associates, and if you haven’t heard of them, well, then you really do need to book in for a spa break, because you’ve been seriously missing out.” Best Spa for Celeb Spotting Soho Farmhouse PROS + Dreamy outside heated pool + Cowshed treatments + Stunning and cosy spa area + Peaceful + Beautiful and homely interior CONS – You need to be a member (or a guest of one) – It’s expensive Book Now “I’ve been here a few times and love it so much. The food is so good, and every little touch has been well thought out. The minute you arrive you feel like you’re on an adventure. You leave your car at the entrance and you’re transported to the resort in a cool, refurbed milk cart. The resort is quite sizeable, so you’re given bikes to ride around, which is so fun. Or if you don’t fancy the ride, you can call for the cart to pick you up, or you can walk of course. To maintain the privacy of guests (aka the celebs), you’re not allowed to use phones in certain spaces or take photos, which is great, as it means you’re literally forced to switch off from external stresses. The spa itself is pretty small but has beautiful outdoor tubs to sink into. And a stone’s throw away is a dreamy, heated pool that seamlessly blends into the lake. The treatments are by Cowshed, who I think are the best for massages – so be sure to book one. But don’t be late! A lesson I learnt – as they take off the minutes you’re delayed by. If staying, special treats are available throughout your trip, from home-baked cookies by your bed, to the cocktail and breakfast cart that can muster up delights outside your room. The only downside is if you want to use this spa, you must have a membership or be a member’s guest. Which is a change from a few years back when they let non-members in at certain times (i.e., me). And as much as I love the place, and I get why they’ve done it, I’m not sure I’d use it enough to give them another £100, as it’s already very pricey.” Best Spa to Book for Summer Pennyhill Park PROS + Huge spa area + Lots of facilities + Outside pool and jacuzzis + Delicious, unusual food + Good value Downsides – Certain areas need a revamp – It was busy, but we still found our own space – Our room was warm, but they brought us Dyson fans, which cooled it quickly. – Our massages were good but not exceptional. Book Now “A friend and I stayed here for two nights and loved it. From the incredible rain shower in our room to ordering champagne to our sun lounger, it was the break we needed and more. The spa is huge, and there are tons of areas to place yourself. Even the dressing rooms have areas to chill in. Although I would note that even though there were a lot of places to go, there were a lot of people. It didn’t bother us, it was just busy, and you had to come back to areas if someone was already there. We both had a back massage and were a bit underwhelmed by them. However, we had just come out of lockdown, and we still had that weird mask on mask off situ, which could have affected our experience. One of the best things about the spa is the enormous outside pool, and if you’re lucky enough to enjoy some hot weather, it can feel like you’re on holiday. We loved the food, which was surprising as the menus were quite unusual. Sometimes we weren’t completely sure what we were ordering but everything was delicious.”
The Best Jeans to Wear After You’ve Had a Baby Read More “High-waisted cuts with stretch are the ones to look for. They provide coverage and support and pull attention upwards to the smaller part of your waist. Look for curvy or… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 31 August 2023 The Best Jeans to Wear After You’ve Had a Baby Wardrobe disconnection after birth, is a ‘thing’! And one of the hardest items to shop for is our beloved jeans! But it doesn’t have to feel stressful! Says Leading Stylist, Sarah Barlow. “Having a pair of flattering, comfy postpartum trousers will do wonders for your self-esteem”. Here, she shares her most figure-flattering styles. Feel confident in flattering styles “Please be kind to yourself. You’ve just had a baby, so your stomach is bound to be different, and it would be strange if you weren’t a bigger size. It’s important to ignore all sizes and numbers and focus on cuts and styling. You’ll be surprised at how incredible the right fit of trousers will make you feel.” The Best Jeans to Wear After a Baby “High-waisted cuts with stretch are the ones to look for. They provide coverage and support and pull attention upwards to the smaller part of your waist. Look for curvy or hourglass fits that compliment shapely figures.” “The perfect pair of jeans is one item that takes a while to find, and blocking out a long solo trip to the shops is probably pretty impossible right now. So I suggest ordering a few to your house, then you can try them at your leisure. Order a few different sizes, and don’t be disheartened if it takes a while. Or if you need to size up a few times.” 90s Baggy Regular Jeans H&M £37.99 Lightweight Denim Trousers Beyond Nine £110 High Waist Balloon Jeans Mango £49 High Rise Straight Fit Jean Zara £29.99 Rib Cage Straight Ankle (Plus size) Levi £60 (Sale) Hugh Wide Jeans Arket £87 The Best Postpartum Trouser Style “Right now, drawstring waists are your friend. They are so flattering as they pull you in and often the little tie details acts as a distraction for the eye. They are also practical for a postpartum body that’s healing and changing. We often think of them as casual items, but the fashion industry has embraced them (probably due to COVID), and they’ve become extremely stylish.” Linen Drawstring Trousers Arket £57 Mabel Natural Linen Trousers Beyond Nine £99 Odell Wide leg pull on trousers Reiss £138 Try Out a Jumpsuit “Try looking for a jumpsuit with a tie at the waist. They work in the same way as drawstring trousers and will pull you in and flatter your figure. They’re also a complete outfit, and you’ll probably find they become one of your favourite things to throw on.” Khaki Utility Jumpsuit Mint Velvet £129 Cotton Jersey Jumpsuit Next £30 Boiler Suit Reserved £59.99 All products on this page have been selected by our editorial team, however, we may make a commission on some products.
Chic Nursery Interiors That You’ll Love ForeverRead More Who says a child’s nursery has to be full of overly babyish bits? Meet the items that’ll last years! Post author By The Mum Club Post date 29 August 2023 Chic Nursery Interiors That You’ll Love Forever Who says a child’s nursery has to be full of overly babyish bits? Meet the items that’ll last years! Troll Torsen Cot Naturalmat Baby £329 Children’s Storage bench H&M £69.99 Ceramic Table Lamp M&S £59 Rattan Framed Mirror H&M £24.99 Storage Crate Liewood £27 5 Drawer Chest Dunelm £249 Large Rainbow Rug H&M £79.99 Childrens Desk H&M £69.99 Let’s Play Wall Light Lights For Fun £39.99 Frilled Stripe Cushion Cover Dunelm £12 Shorty Locker Mustard Made £139 Bouclé Rocking Chair Next £350 House Basket H&M £27.99 Two Pack Tassel Curtains H&M £59.99 Gingham Canopy PROJEKTI TYYNY £295 Kids’ Drawer Shelves Zara Home £99.99
Charlotte Stirling-Reed’s Baked Banana BarsRead More Post author By The Mum Club Post date 28 August 2023 Charlotte Stirling-Reed’s Baked Banana Bars “I LOVE an on-the-go brekkie idea and these porridge bars have been SUCH a hit with my kids. They work great as a snack as well, and are very easy to put together. They take a little time on the cooking front, but next to no time to prep, and are well worth it. They freeze well so are perfect for batch-cooking, and you can vary what you make them with according to what you have in your fridge.” Ingredients 100g porridge oats 180ml milk of choice 2 large, very ripe bananas (around 200g in total) 85g sultanas (or raisins, chopped dates, chopped dried apricots) 1/2 tsp mixed spice (or ground cinnamon or nutmeg) 3 tbsp mixed seeds (ground for babies/toddlers Method 1. Preheat the oven to 180°C/160°C fan and line a 20cm square shallow baking tin with non-stick baking paper. Mix all the ingredients together (except the seeds), then mash it well with a fork to completely break up the bananas. Once everything is well mixed, scoop it into the baking tin and level the top. Sprinkle the mixed seeds on top (leave off or grind if serving to babies and young children). 2. Bake for 50–55 minutes, until the top is golden and crisp. Once cooked, remove from the tin using the baking paper and leave to cool on a rack until either warm or cooled to room temperature. 3. Slice into 24 small squares, or 12 larger bars to serve. The bars will keep in an airtight container for up to 3 days, or can be wrapped in cling film/beeswax and frozen individually, then defrosted on the counter overnight ready for the morning. You can also reheat them uncovered in a microwave for 30 seconds if you’d like them warm. “For babies and young children: They should be okay with the texture of these as soon as they have moved on to slightly more complex finger foods. Avoid whole seeds, offer them ground instead, or simply leave them off any of the bars/squares that are for your baby/toddler.” How to feed your family, by Charlotte-Stirling-Reed Charlotte’s new book is out now and full of brilliant and easy to follow recipes that the whole family will enjoy. Buy now
The Stomach Toning Treatment Loved by CelebsRead More View this post on Instagram A post shared by Michael Divizio (@emsculpt_divizio) Post author By The Mum Club Post date 28 August 2023 The Stomach Toning Treatment Loved by Celebs EmsculptNeo is a core restore treatment loved by Drew Barrymore, JLo, Megan Fox, Olivia Culpo, and Millie Mackintosh. But does it actually work? The Mum Club’s Editor, Lydia House went to Dr. MediSpa in Knightsbridge to try it out. A machine that tones your tummy “I wanted to hate this treatment. I’m so sceptical of workout gadgets that cost a fortune and promise the earth. And with so many slim celebs showing off their already-toned stomachs using this machine, the whole thing felt like a PR stunt. But after two babies, two c-sections, diastasis recti and a core that felt like it had completely melted, I was willing to try anything.” “Could a half an hour session really emulate the effect of 24,000 sit-ups and give me a toned tummy?” How does it work? “I arrived at DrMediSpa and was taken to a comfy bed as a large plated device was strapped to my stomach. The machine uses electromagnetic energy to stimulate the muscles and build muscle mass. The therapist explained that she would start it on a low frequency and increase it gradually. The sensation feels similar to early to mid contractions you feel in labour, but weirdly, you get used to it. What I wasn’t fond of was the tapping, which feels like a tiny hammer hitting your skin. This is used to elevate muscle strain and remove any downtime. While this is all happening, the machine also emits radiofrequency to deplete fat cells and aid fat loss.” View this post on Instagram A post shared by Michael Divizio (@emsculpt_divizio) Celebrities that have had Emsculpt Neo There’s a big list! Many of the Selling Sunset cast, as well as Millie Mackintosh, Olivia Culpo, Victoria Secrets models and big A-listers like J-Lo and Megan Fox. And Drew Barrymore has openly said how she used it to regain muscle mass after she had kids and it has been reported that Kim Kardashian also used EmsculptNeo to tone her stomach after her pregnancy. The results… “As the therapist removed the straps and machine, I looked at my stomach – which was very much the same! And a bit nonplussed by it all I headed home. After my train journey home I got in the car to get the kids from nursery and noticed I could tense my stomach – a sensation I hadn’t felt for years. Fast forward to my final session, and the sensation had become harder to take, which is normal, and a good sign, as it shows you’re more connected to those muscles. My stomach certainly isn’t flat. I still have a shelf above my scar and a fair amount of fat, but I can kind of see my muscles when I look in the mirror, and my overall core strength has increased exponentially. I still have separation, but it’s reduced, and the best bit is my body feels like it’s repairing and that I’ve given it a kick start in the right direction. I now feel that I could regain the strength I had before babies and there was a point (not that long ago) that I thought this would ever be possible.” What about fat loss? “Emsculpt advises that you follow a healthy lifestyle to get the best results, “Remember, no wine – just gin!” my therapist yelled at me as I left to meet a friend for her birthday night out. And I did follow the rules a little. I stepped up my spin classes and tried harder to be healthy. But I also had two unfortunately timed holidays throughout my four treatments, and our house was hit with a stomach bug and flu. So, I’ll admit a fair amount of comfort foods and cocktails were consumed during the process. So, have I noticed fat loss? Maybe a little. But to be honest, I haven’t tracked it. That’s not why I signed up. I want to enjoy my life and its indulgences, this was always more about regaining strength and mobility than losing weight.” Would you recommend it? “Drew Barrymore said that the reason she tried EmsculptNeo was that “as a mother, she couldn’t put her body back together after kids and that her core was like a fish tank”. And that’s exactly how I felt.” “I would absolutely recommend this treatment, but I’d suggest doing it when you can commit to a healthy lifestyle.” “It’s also very costly, so I must warn that this is not a way to get instant abs unless your stomach is already toned. This is a helping hand.” “Reviewing this treatment served as an excellent reminder that we should not compare ourselves to others, especially those who live a very fortunate lifestyle, like celebs. No one’s body or situation is the same.” “Exercise takes time, dedication and effort, and I imagine if I’d put in a lot of hard work, I would have eventually gotten to this point.” “However, it was lovely to take a shortcut!” Where to book… Dr MediSpa, London and Essex EMSCULPT NEO® is the world’s first non-invasive procedure that uses a unique combination of two technologies, synchronised radiofrequency (RF) and high intensity focused electromagnetic technology (HIFEM+®) to target both fat reduction and muscle growth. Designed to simultaneously melt fat while building muscle, EMSCULPT NEO® helps patients achieve next level body shaping results in a single treatment. Book now
What to Wear This WeekRead More We’re clutching to the last few days of summer with this look inspired by @franki.dammone. Pair your beloved skirts, dresses and shorts with lightweight cover-ups, cosy socks and trainers. Then whack… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 28 August 2023 What to Wear This Week We’re clutching to the last few days of summer with this look inspired by @franki.dammone. Pair your beloved skirts, dresses and shorts with lightweight cover-ups, cosy socks and trainers. Then whack on your sunnies and hope for some rays. Oversized Denim Jacket Arket £89 Band T-Shirt Etre Cecile £70 Wave Huggle Hoop Earrings Orelia £18 Elan Suede Trainers Gola £90 Striped Linen Drawstring Shorts & Other Stories £39 (Sale) Dixie Sunglasses Vehla £160
Reviewed By Us: Lindex Back to Pre-School RangeRead More Post author By The Mum Club Post date 24 August 2023 Reviewed By Us: Lindex Back to Pre-School Range Reviewed by: Harley Waller, TMC Affiliate & Admin Co-Ordinator Pros Stylish and affordable Basic great value separates A brilliant checklist of products Great quality Cons We want it in adult-size Overall thoughts I always find it tricky to get ‘trendy’ kids clothes that don’t cost a fortune. And Lindex has got it so right with this simple, stylish, and on-trend clothing range. And having all of the products I need to get for pre-school in one easy-to-shop space, made things so much easier for me! What is it? Lindex has created a back-to-school checklist to make things easy (and stylish) for parents this September. Helping you prepare for that special day with sustainable, recyclable products that others will be begging you to pass on. The range is made to last and has the most incredible designs that you and your kids will love. From everyday basics, socks, tops and trousers, they also have a fantastic line of outerwear that will protect your children, even in the coldest months! Was it good value? Buying clothes for pre-school or nursery is hard as you don’t want to spend too much money, but you want them to look cool. And this range is perfect for school and weekend wear and is SO affordable! I got my daughter a pair of FIX shell trousers for winter, and I’m so impressed with the quality. Not only do they look great, but you can tell they will be so durable with all our winter park trips and whatever she gets up to at school. Would you recommend it? All I can say is… I wish they did these clothes in adult sizes! I dressed my little girl in the ‘trousers with cargo pockets’ and a ‘pile jacket with pattern’; not only did she look like an absolute fashionista, but my friends all wanted her outfit in their size too. Lindex Back to Pre-School Offer Get 25% off the range! Shop now *until the 28th of August, and you’ll make even more of a saving on Lindex’s seriously stylish kidswear. 25% off Lindex Back to Pre-School £ View Now
Kids’ Supermarket Clothes Are So Good Right NowRead More It’s worrying how excited we get over a supersized food hall that stocks clothes. These are the best items to shop while you pick up your wine nappies. Available in-store at Tesco… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 24 August 2023 Kids’ Supermarket Clothes Are So Good Right Now It’s worrying how excited we get over a supersized food hall that stocks clothes. These are the best items to shop while you pick up your wine nappies. Marks & Spencer Stormwear Hooded Fisherman Coat M&S £30 Tie Dye Top & Bottom Outfit M&S £22 2pc Cotton Rich Striped Outfit M&S £14 Padded Gilet M&S £20 Denim Dungarees M&S £22 Stormwear Fisherman Coat M&S £30 Cotton Rich Striped Outfit M&S £18 Borg Floral Jacket M&S £20 Denim & Tights Outfit M&S £18 Quilted Bomber Jacket M&S £24 Sweatshirt and Joggers M&S £22 George. at Asda Bat Sweatshirt and Leggings Outfit George £10 Gingham Dress and Knitted Vest George £12 Blue Crinkle Shorts Set George £8 Striped Flares Outfit George £8 Gingham Dress George £7 Tie Dye Sweatshirt and Joggers Outfit George £12 Low Cat Wellies George £10 Roar Sweatshirt and Leggings George £9 Tu at Sainsburys Iridescent Rain mac Tu £20 Floral Leggings Tu £5 Classic Strap Trainers Superga £37 Grey Cropped Sweatshirt Tu £11 Dungarees and Top set Tu £17 Beetroot Romper Turtledove London £6 Ribbed bodysuits 3 Pack Tu £5 Bodysuit Outfit Tu £9 Sweatshirt Tu £7 Denim Jacket Tu £7 Cargo Corduroy Trousers Tu £11 F&F at Tesco Available in-store at Tesco or you can shop online @Next All products on this page have been selected by our editorial team, however, we may make a commission on some products. Bomber Jacket F&F £20-£24 3 Pack Cycling Shorts F&F £10-£14 Star Pinny Denim Dress F&F £14-£18 Knitted Rainbow Romper F&F £12 Knitted Dinosaur Dungaree Set f&F £14 Textured Woven Set F&F £12
The Best Places for Late Summer SunRead More tinytravelship.com is a brilliant website packed with parent-pleasing stays all visited and verified by a fellow family. Making booking your next trip easy, you can filter holidays by the age of… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 22 August 2023 The Best Places for Late Summer Sun For lucky ones in the lofty position of not being tied to term times, a late summer getaway should be considered an essential says Tiny Travelship. Here are their favourite finds… Cyprus Closer to the Middle East than Europe, Cyprus, the hottest island in the Mediterranean, where the sun shines over 300 days a year, offers long-haul heat levels without the lengthy flight. Much more than neon lights and nightclubs, Cyprus is home to ancient history, pine-studded national parks and turquoise bays The Best Family-Friendly Hotel in Cyprus Almyra, Paphos Almyra is a design hotel that proves you can be best in class at catering for children without compromising on cool, grown-up vibes. The Scott Dunn run Kids Club welcomes tots from 4 months old, whilst the genius Baby Go Lightly service makes packing a breeze. For adults, there’s a stress-erasing spa and destination dining. All this, for a reasonable price tag, makes Almyra nearly impossible to beat. Find out more The Best Budget Boutique Stay in Cyprus Modus Vivendi, Psematismenos For those who like to get under the skin of countries they visit, Modus Vivendi encourages all guests to live like locals—the alternative to identikit resorts that could be picked up and placed in any country. The owners at Modus Vivendi are passionate about highlighting the island’s rich tradition and cultural heritage. A cluster of artfully eclectic apartments are tastefully decorated with stone walls, antique beds and vintage finds. The kitchenettes make catering for tiny taste buds super simple. Guests of all ages can’t help but lean into a slower, more sedate pace of life centred around the sun-drenched courtyard pool. With prices starting from £97 p/night and bragging rights to your neighbours that you’ve found a true hidden gem, it’s hands down the best budget boutique bolthole in the country. Find out more Puglia, Italy Puglia…even the name is poetic. The heel of Italy is home to postcard-perfect views, whitewashed villages and fabulous food. Come September, the crowds disperse, leaving both beaches and restaurant wait lists blissfully empty The Best Big Family Villa Villa Le Cerase, Puglia One of our top tips for a hassle-free holiday with tiny people is to rope in the grandparents. Hello, built-in babysitters! Deep in the peaceful countryside of Salve lies Villa Le Cerase, a cluster of 3 sympathetically converted trulli ideal for extended families or friends (sleeping 7 in total). The trio of whitewashed buildings surround a serene private pool nestled in safe, secure Mediterranean gardens. You’re not far from the secret swimming spot at Marina Serra (the stuff of Insta gold), Puglia’s best beaches, or the tastiest restaurants (Taverna Del Porto is not to be missed) Find out more A Luxury Family-Friendly Hotel Borgo Egnazia If you’re scrolling for the lap of luxury and a stay where your every whim and fancy is immediately catered to, you’ll want to check out Borgo Egnazia. With rural romance at every turn, you’d be forgiven for thinking this was an adult-only enclave, but that’s far from the case. Children are warmly welcomed with a Kid’s Club and Tripp Trapp equipped restaurants. Borgo is quietly recommended from friend to friend so the secret of this parental paradise doesn’t get out. Find out more Cornwall, England Although you can never guarantee the English weather, if there’s one UK destination we’d hot foot it over to in the hope of some September sun, it would be Cornwall. With beaches to rival the Caribbean, sublime seafood, and stylish seafront sanctuaries, it’s one of Britain’s most loved beach breaks for good reason. A Luxury Hotel with Complimentary Childcare Fowey Hall, Cornwall Recently refurbished, Fowey Hall is a cosseting coastal retreat providing unparalleled comfort for parents and tiny travellers alike. Less of a case of ‘what is available’ and more of a case of ‘what isn’t’, this stylish staycation is a masterclass in how to cater to families without compromising on gorgeous, grown-up vibes. The desirable location means there’s plenty in easy reach for families to do together, but if you need a little adults-only downtime, the Kid’s Club welcomes tots from 3 months old. With 90 minutes of complimentary childcare a day, it would be rude not to drop them off and indulge in the spa or a long languorous lunch with the ability to eat with two hands. Whilst it’s easy for hotels to offer cots and highchairs, truly thoughtful touches such as the milk butler service and daily story time with milk & cookies elevate this stay from family-friendly to family FANTASTIC. Find out more Tredethick Farm Cottages, Cornwall Whilst sticky soft play with hordes of children isn’t exactly our idea of a good time, onsite soft play accompanied by comfy sofas, freshly ground coffee, and thoughtfully provided magazines is definitely something we can get on board with. Tredethick’s self-catering cottages combine adult indulges (we’re talking separate sleep spaces, a hot tub and a well-stocked farm shop) with near-limitless children’s activities. Whatever the weather, all contingencies are covered thanks to the indoor swimming pool and soft play. The fun doesn’t stop there. Outside, there are farmyard friends and ride on tractors. A toddler’s dreamland? Yes, but one that manages to be equally captivating to parents as well Find out more Spain Whilst Spain might get a bad rep amongst boutique-bolthole seeking parents for its wealth of package holidays and mega-resorts, if you do a little digging, the home of sun-soaked siestas and tantalising tapas has a wealth of fabulous fincas and authentic abodes. The easy peasy 2hr 30-minute flight shouldn’t be underestimated either. An Adult-Only Hotel That Lets Kids in *Occasionally Casa La Siesta, Spain Usually an adults-only retreat, this honey-hued hacienda opens its doors to families during four specific weeks a year (the next one being 20th October – 3rd November). We don’t deny there’s a time and a place for all-singing, all-dancing hotels that whisk your offspring away into Kids Clubs. But Casa La Siesta offers an entirely new take on family-friendly getaways, where the needs of parents as people, not just mums and dads, are prioritised. A name to know for foodies, the onsite restaurant dishes up farm-to-fork dining at its finest, plus nearby Vejer offers a wealth of homegrown cuisine. Days can be spent horizontally holidaying around the Eden-esque pool, whilst nights involve heavenly glasses of local wine under the starlit sky – all without a singing mascot in sight. Find out more Hoteliers that act like Grandparents Caserio del Mirador A family-run Spanish sanctuary designed to expertly entertain babies and kids, so parents can relax. Yes, the swimming pool, swings, slides, sandpits, dressing up and Beryl, the resident pig – all tick child-delighting boxes. But what makes staying here so special is the fairy godmother-like service from the owners. Offering a level of hands-on help usually only identified with nannies or grandparents, hosts Johnny and Sarah will happily walk an overtired baby to sleep or play games with a toddler, allowing parents the chance to chill. The spacious self-catering apartments provide ample room and the flexibility to feed tiny travellers on their own schedule. However, parents aren’t totally left to fend for themselves. Breakfast is delivered to you every morning, and freshly cooked feasts are served in the evening. Find out more What is Tiny Travelship tinytravelship.com is a brilliant website packed with parent-pleasing stays all visited and verified by a fellow family. Making booking your next trip easy, you can filter holidays by the age of your children, weaning and sleeping requirements, distance from the airport, and the details important to you. You can also give them a follow on Instagram for daily inspiration, itineraries, insider reviews and the chance to share your recommendations.
DIY Dishoom Date Night IdeaRead More Need some date night dinner inspiration? This mouth-watering curry is TMC Style & Content Creator, Luzaan’s go-to dish to spice things up! Chicken Curry Recipe adapted from https://iamafoodblog.com/ Post author By The Mum Club Post date 22 August 2023 DIY Dishoom Date Night Idea Need some date night dinner inspiration? This mouth-watering curry is TMC Style & Content Creator, Luzaan’s go-to dish to spice things up! Ruby Chicken Curry “This is hands down our favourite dish from the restaurant and I’ve made it so many times, even the kids love it – just add a huge dollop of yoghurt to theirs.” Ingedients Chicken 1 lb boneless skinless chicken thighs cut into 2” chunks 1/4″ fresh ginger finely diced 5 cloves garlic crushed 1 tsp Indian chilli powder 1 tsp ground cumin 1/2 tsp garam masala juice of 1/4 lime 1 tbsp neutral oil such as grapeseed 1/4 cup kefir or Greek yoghurt Curry 4 cloves garlic 1/2″ fresh ginger plus extra for garnish 1/2 cup neutral oil such as grapeseed 1 bay leaf 4 pods of green cardamom 1 stick cinnamon 14 ounces cherry tomatoes blended 1 tbsp butter 1 tsp Indian chilli powder 1/2 tsp garam masala 1/2 tsp ground cumin 1/4 cup heavy cream aka whipping cream “To elevate the dish I like to make naan from scratch (it tastes so much better than the supermarket ones) and add in some shop bought popadoms and chutneys.” How to make it: In a medium bowl, mix the marinade ingredients together, then toss the chicken until evenly coated. Wrap and store in the fridge to marinate for 6 hours to overnight. Making the curry takes about 45 minutes. Start by crushing or finely dicing the ginger and 2 cloves of garlic. A mortar and pestle is ideal. Set aside. Roughly chop the remaining 2 cloves of garlic. Add the 1/2 cup oil to a large pan and set over medium-high heat, then add the garlic. Cook garlic until golden brown, about 2-3 minutes, watching carefully to ensure it doesn’t burn. Remove the garlic with a skimmer or slotted spoon and set aside. Add the bay leaf, cardamom, and cinnamon. Cook for about 1 minute, or until the cinnamon stick opens. Reduce the heat to medium and add the reserved ginger-garlic paste from step 2. Cook until the paste has browned a little, about 5 minutes, then add the blended tomatoes, being careful of splattering. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the sauce is reduced by about 2/3 and darkened by roughly 15 minutes. Add the butter, chilli powder, garam masala, cumin, the reserved crispy garlic from Step 4, and a pinch of salt. Cook for another 10-15 minutes, or until sauce has reduced by about 1/2, then stir in the cream. Cook for another 5 minutes, then remove from the heat and set aside while you make the chicken. Preheat your grill to high. Oil the grates well, and then skewer and cook the chicken until charred and just cooked through 8-10 minutes. If you don’t have a grill handy, fry the chicken in 1-2 tbsp oil until just cooked through. Add the chicken to the curry and simmer for another 5 minutes, stirring evenly to coat. Plate and garnish with ginger matchsticks and cilantro (optional). “Get in some great beer and/or a lovely bottle of wine and enjoy!” Recipe adapted from https://iamafoodblog.com/ Tags fajita, wtf is for dinner
How to Exercise When You Have Diastasis RectiRead More Around 60% of women experience it after birth. But how do you know if you have it? And how can you exercise safely? We spoke to Pre and postnatal fitness… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 21 August 2023 How to Exercise When You Have Diastasis Recti Around 60% of women experience it after birth. But how do you know if you have it? And how can you exercise safely? We spoke to Pre and postnatal fitness specialist, Hollie Grant of The Bump Plan, to get her expert tips. What is Diastasis Recti? Even though it sounds very technical, it is very common and natural and it is when the muscles in your stomach separate in order to make space for your growing baby. How do you know if you have Diastasis Recti? After you have had your baby, you can check the size of the separation with this simple technique. Lie on your back with your legs bent and your feet flat on the floor. Raise your shoulders off the floor slightly and look down at your tummy. Using the tips of your fingers, feel between the edges of the muscles, above and below your belly button. See how many fingers you can fit into the gap between your muscles. Ideally your doctor will examine you for DR in your six-week check-up, but it’s not unknown for this to be missed and it’s always worth checking yourself at home or book in with a women’s health physio for a post natal MOT and they will give you essential advice for recovery. *Advice from NHSUK How to Exercise with Diastasis Recti? Pre and postnatal fitness specialist, Hollie Grant says, “When you’ve recovered from birth, unless you’ve been advised not to, you can still move and exercise with a Diastasis Recti. Staying physically active is vital for our physical and mental health, so here are some tips on how to move safely with these conditions.” Tips for moving safely with diastasis recti Understand core pressure “When we move, we create a certain amount of pressure in the core, and how we manage that pressure can help us manage our symptoms. For example, if we are doing an exercise that causes lots of pressure to our Linea Alba called Doming (this may look like your tummy going pointy) we may want to regress the exercise a little until we can better manage that pressure.” Listen to your body “How does it feel after exercise? Do your symptoms feel worse post exercise? If so, you may be overdoing it or need to work at a lower intensity or shorter duration initially before gradually building your way up.” Work closely with your GP or Physio “It’s important you request support from your healthcare provider – staying active is so beneficial and they should be able to help support you in doing so.” Do your pelvic floor exercises “With the exception of those who have a tight (hypertonic) pelvic floor, most women will benefit from some pelvic floor exercises (also referred to as Kegels). These will help build strength in the pelvic floor, which can help with both DRA and Prolapse symptoms.” Learn to move well “I would say technique is really important for all activities, but particularly when working with a diastasis. Really think about how your body moves, when you feel pressure on your pelvic floor or Linea Alba, whether you are leaking during certain moves, how you feel afterwards, and how to maintain good form when exercising. It can really help to ensure we are managing load well and creating some good habits that are transferable to everyday life.” Tags body, Diastasis Recti, fitness, health, newDesign “How I Got Through it”. A Real Mum’s Advice For Women Navigating Divorce.Read More Sweaty Mama Post author By The Mum Club Post date 21 August 2023 “How I Got Through it”. A Real Mum’s Advice For Women Navigating Divorce. “At the time of finding out my husband was having an affair, I had a 10-month-old, a 2.5-year-old and a 4.5-year-old. I felt like my whole world fell apart in an instant.” When I found out about the affair “I was in physical pain, had panic attacks, and dropped 3 dress sizes in less than 6 months. I didn’t sleep properly for a year and was in a very dark place. The hardest part to deal with, and what made me feel panicked, was losing my family unit and having to share my children. My thoughts would run away with me; I would only see my children half of the time, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. I constantly felt angry and struggled to deal with seeing my husband whenever he came to collect the children. I remember thinking it would be easier for me to deal with it if he was dead. It’s awful now to think I had these bitter thoughts, but at the time, I just struggled with seeing him and how I was feeling.” I grieved the loss of my family unit “After months of being at rock bottom, I felt desperate, and, at the time, I felt that the only way for me to be happy again was to try and make my marriage work. I knew I probably wouldn’t ever get over what happened, but I felt so desperate to keep my family together that I couldn’t see any other way. At least if we were together – so would my family. For about 9 months, I tried my best to ‘carry on as normal,’ with my then-husband promising me the world and how he would ‘fix us’, but in the process, I lost myself. I would panic and worry when he wasn’t with me. If he went to do the food shop or went out for a run, my mind would be on overdrive, wondering if he was calling ‘her,’ or if he was going where he said he was. My trust had been broken and was unfortunately unrepairable. I fell out with the closest members of my family because they could see what it was doing to me, but I was still so desperate that I thought this was the only way. I started lying to them, making excuses for him and tried to keep them at a distance so I could try to prove to them that I could sort this mess out, hoping that once I had done, they could see I was happy again, and all would be forgiven and forgotten. Things just got worse. I couldn’t function or think properly. I felt run down. I couldn’t eat, I didn’t want to leave the house, I had chest pains and one morning, I rang my stepdad crying and told him I didn’t want to live anymore. I knew then that things had to change, and I had to pick myself up for the sake of my children.” The doctor diagnosed me with a broken heart “That afternoon, my best friend took me to the doctor. I told her about the pain in my chest, and I poured everything out to her. She told me that I had a broken heart and diagnosed me with anxiety and depression. She gave me a telephone number for some counselling and talked to me about antidepressants. I remember she said, ‘I promise you that you will get through all of this.’ I didn’t believe her. I went home and told my husband enough was enough and that I had to be on my own with the children. I needed them with me to have a purpose to get myself well again. He respected my decision and apologised profusely for what he had done to me. I reluctantly started taking the medication from the doctor and going to counselling sessions once a week. I felt embarrassed about taking the pills and didn’t tell anyone (only my friend who came to the doctor with me knew). The stigma around antidepressants and them being ‘happy pills’ was at the forefront of my mind, and the worry of people thinking I wasn’t coping. They didn’t make me happy; they took away the ‘fuzziness’ in my head so that I could think straight. Antidepressants are certainly not the answer for everyone. No one’s mental health or situation is the same, but for me, it felt like I could step forward.” I needed to get help “Counselling was a place I could talk to someone, who didn’t know me, who I felt didn’t judge me, and it was my one hour a week that I could just sit down in a quiet room and talk away. I could slowly feel myself coming back. I felt like a better mummy to my three children. I had more patience; I was able to take them out and not panic about being out of the house. I surrounded myself with friends and family again, who are worth their weight in gold. Simple things – meeting for coffee, chatting on the phone, going for a walk, and I even went back and re-joined the gym. The next hurdle I had to face was divorce, selling our family home and joint businesses. I went to see a solicitor, who talked me through everything, gave me good advice and started the ball rolling. I had a wobble. Having to produce my marriage certificate to get divorced. Seeing things in writing was heartbreaking. I had built a life with this man for 16 years, and there I was, filling out forms to end it all. I had to keep reminding myself that this was the right decision for me, and especially for our children. Someone told me that it’s better to have two separate parents who are happy, than two parents together who are unhappy. I couldn’t agree more.” Figuring out my finances “Another big worry I had, was finances. I had left my career in the police force five years previously so that I could bring up our children. My husband had financially supported us, but now how was I going to go back to that career, working shifts of all hours, as a single mum? Fortunately for me, my husband wanted me to have our house, and we agreed that everything else was to be split 50/50. With so much to deal with, it needed to be baby steps with everything. One step at a time. Closing joint bank accounts, sorting out a rota for the children, and co-parenting with us being on the same page. There wasn’t any rush, though. It just had to be when I felt ready. I decided that I wanted to sell the house to have a fresh start, and I would find myself a new job that I could work around the children.” Finding myself again “I was on holiday with my family, sat around the pool looking for inspiration for a new job. One that would work for me around 3 young children. And I came across the franchise Sweaty Mama—a fitness class where you take your babies and children with you. I had always been into sport and fitness, so it seemed perfect for me. After studying for the relevant qualifications, in pre and postnatal fitness, 6 months later I started my own Sweaty Mama business. I firmly believe that surrounding yourself with like-minded women is a must. Sweaty Mama creates a community for women, many on maternity leave. The exercises sessions are a non-judgemental class, where pre and postnatal women can feel comfortable to exercise, bond with their babies and form friendships.” Sweaty Mama I felt strong again “After 10 months, I eventually felt strong enough to stop taking my medication and swapped my counselling sessions with evenings out with my friends. I met my new partner in a bar on a night out with friends. I was honest and open with him about everything, and I knew I had to put my trust issues to one side to make any new relationship work. I didn’t want to have trust issues. I didn’t want to be that girl who has to check their partner’s phone, and I didn’t want to worry when their other half goes on a lads’ night out. I told myself that he hadn’t given me any reason not to trust him, so I needed to, and he went above and beyond to make me feel relaxed and trusting. After 18 months of being together, I sold my house, and we bought a house together. We have a blended family, with my three children, his son and nearly six years down the line, and we now have a baby together. This wasn’t the life I thought I would have when I got married. It’s different, but it works, and I’m happy. I think about everything that happened quite often. I even sometimes have a cry about it. But I’ve accepted that it’s normal to still feel sad occasionally. It still often bothers me having to share my children, as sometimes I feel like I miss out on moments I shouldn’t have to. They are happy. They go between two happy, loving homes and have two parents, who are now friends, trying to do our best for them and putting them at the top of our priority. We are making it work.” “My doctor was right though – I did get through it.” My advice for other people going through it It’s ok to feel sad “Let yourself feel that emotion. There will be good days and bad, and eventually, the balance should alter so there’s much less bad. There’s no shame in getting external help when it comes to your mental health.” Use some sleep aids “In the beginning, the nights were the worst, and I relied on lavender pillow sprays, calming candles and meditating. When the children were in bed, and I was on my own, that’s when my brain ‘fired up!’ I wanted to try and stop my brain from working!! It was horrible. I felt like I was going crazy, so I looked for things to try and help me calm down.” Try not to focus on the family unit “You might not be happy right now, but eventually you will, and two happy parents are better than an unhappy home.” Get some advice and read up on your rights “Solicitors offer a free 30 mins consultation. So, I went to 3 or 4 and used my 30 minutes to gauge a feel for them. Did I like them? Did I connect with them? The solicitor who I chose in the end I felt was fair, straight to the point, and I felt they would have my back if things went pear-shaped. She gave me tips on how to protect myself financially ‘just in case.’” It’s ok to feel like you’re in shock and overwhelmed “If you’re asking, ‘What should I do?’. You need to think about what is right for you and not for someone else’. It’s ok to make mistakes or change your mind as you navigate something that could be unexpected and unwanted.” Let others help you “Surround yourself with good family and friends and don’t be scared to let them lift you. You will get through it!” 11 Things They (*And You) Need for Starting SchoolRead More How did we get here? It only feels like yesterday that we were swimming in a sea of nappies and Googling different shades of poo. Now they’re all grown up… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 21 August 2023 11 Things They (*And You) Need for Starting School How did we get here? It only feels like yesterday that we were swimming in a sea of nappies and Googling different shades of poo. Now they’re all grown up and heading off for big school. So, to help you with this momentous next step, here is a list of the things that will help you and them start school. For Them Raincoat They go outside no matter the weather, so a good coat is essential. *Tip: Always size up to account for jumpers. Buy Now Backpack We think we might have found the cutest school backpack of all time. For an extra special touch you could have their name embroidered by the apple and it would look so sweet! Buy Now Water Bottle This is a brilliant water bottle that’s built to withstand a great deal of wear and tear and has a little straw that’s perfect for small mouths. Buy Now Wellies You may be asked to bring in a pair of wellies that are kept at school. We particular love a bold block colour as they’re the perfect mix of smart and cute and then you can save the fun ones for home. Buy Now Lunchbox These lunchboxes are great for keeping everything seperate, even yoghurt! Buy Now Leather School Shoes Keeping those little feet smelling fresher. We love the velcro straps to encourage independence. Buy Now Tags, Tags and More Tags “If your kids have attended pre school you’ll be use to labelling but you might not have heard of this system. We have used these tags from day one and they are still going strong 4 years later. Get some sticker name labels too for shoes and things like bottles and lunch boxes. They will lose things and these are your best bet at ever seeing anything again.” Luzaan Shaw – TMC Style and Content Creator Buy Now Strong Girls/Brave Boys Club Patches We love this idea. You fix the badge inside their coat or wherever makes sense and it serves as a reminder that they’re brave and strong, and that you’re always with them. Buy Now For You Tracksuit The ultimate school run uniform for mums, easy to throw on, comfy and stylish. Buy Now Calm Patches For first day drop off, when you get a call from their teacher and just general life. Buy Now Raincoat An easy waterproof that you can chuck on quickly. Because it always starts pouring right when it’s time to drop them off and pick them up. It’s just the way it goes! Buy Now All products on this page have been selected by our editorial team, however, we may make a commission on some products. TMC’s Guide to… CambridgeRead More Staycations have always been popular but especially now more than ever! TMC will be releasing guides to the best holiday destinations and TMC clubs in the UK according to our… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 17 August 2023 TMC’s Guide to… Cambridge Staycations have always been popular but especially now more than ever! TMC will be releasing guides to the best holiday destinations and TMC clubs in the UK according to our local franchisees. Next up…Cambridge. According to TMC Cambridge Franchise Owner Tracy Harris Where to Stay Best Boutique Stay: The Carpenters Arms Great Wilbraham Part of the Chestnut group, this hidden gem is slightly outside of the city centre but with boutique rooms, a fab restaurant and gorgeous garden (with onsite parking) you’ll be glad you found it! Find Out More Best Hotel: Parker’s Tavern in the City Centre For those that want something extra special then head over to the City Centre to Parker’s Tavern. All the city hot spots are on your doorstep. Book Now Best Out of Town Stay: The Fellows House by Curio at Hilton For a slightly out of town stay the gorgeous The Fellows House by Curio at Hilton is a hidden gem. Book Now Best BnB: The Three Hills Bartlow For those that love a bed and breakfast The Three Hills Bartlow might be outside the city centre but it is in a gorgeous setting out in the countryside with outhouse accommodation. Book Now Where To Eat Best Brunch Spot: Scott’s All Day Situated up Mill Road this is a brunch spot definitely worth a visit! The pancakes are to die for and a funky vibe with weekend bottomless brunch for a day with the girls! They also have a great food offering for the littles. Book a Table Best Kid Friendly: Bill’s Known countrywide Bill’s has a brilliant kids menu and is always bustling with young families. Book Now Best Coffee: Bould Brothers Bould Brothers do the best coffee in town, to get a seat head to the Regent Street café, but for a takeaway they have a city centre branch which is perfect for the summer! Check Out Now Best Lunch: Aromi For a delicious café or takeaway lunch head to Aromi or any of the food stalls on the market square will have your tastebuds tingling! Book Now Best Date Night: The Ivy Brasserie Nestled amongst the cobbled market streets the Ivy Brasserie is a real favourite for a romantic evening. Book Now What To Do Must See: The Botanic Gardens Slightly out of town but The Botanic Gardens are a must see in my opinion. Best Sightseeing: Punting Along River Cam Punting along the River Cam is the best way to see and learn about the famous colleges… you will be guaranteed to be blown away by the beauty of the Backs. Best Walk: Grantchester The beautiful riverside walk from the centre to Grantchester – you can refuel at one of the cafes or many pubs before heading back. Best Boutique Shop: Iris and Violet Iris and Violet is situated just off the market square with the most beautiful clothes and accessories. You could easily wile away a few kid free hours browsing their gorgeous hand picked collection. Find Out More TMC Cambridge Brunch Club If you want to meet local, likeminded mum friends on your trip why not attend a TMC Brunch club. Book Now Top Tips Best Time Of Year To Visit: Spring or Summer to have the best punting experience along the river. 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“How I Got Through it”. A Real Mum’s Advice For Women Navigating Divorce.Read More Sweaty Mama Post author By The Mum Club Post date 21 August 2023 “How I Got Through it”. A Real Mum’s Advice For Women Navigating Divorce. “At the time of finding out my husband was having an affair, I had a 10-month-old, a 2.5-year-old and a 4.5-year-old. I felt like my whole world fell apart in an instant.” When I found out about the affair “I was in physical pain, had panic attacks, and dropped 3 dress sizes in less than 6 months. I didn’t sleep properly for a year and was in a very dark place. The hardest part to deal with, and what made me feel panicked, was losing my family unit and having to share my children. My thoughts would run away with me; I would only see my children half of the time, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. I constantly felt angry and struggled to deal with seeing my husband whenever he came to collect the children. I remember thinking it would be easier for me to deal with it if he was dead. It’s awful now to think I had these bitter thoughts, but at the time, I just struggled with seeing him and how I was feeling.” I grieved the loss of my family unit “After months of being at rock bottom, I felt desperate, and, at the time, I felt that the only way for me to be happy again was to try and make my marriage work. I knew I probably wouldn’t ever get over what happened, but I felt so desperate to keep my family together that I couldn’t see any other way. At least if we were together – so would my family. For about 9 months, I tried my best to ‘carry on as normal,’ with my then-husband promising me the world and how he would ‘fix us’, but in the process, I lost myself. I would panic and worry when he wasn’t with me. If he went to do the food shop or went out for a run, my mind would be on overdrive, wondering if he was calling ‘her,’ or if he was going where he said he was. My trust had been broken and was unfortunately unrepairable. I fell out with the closest members of my family because they could see what it was doing to me, but I was still so desperate that I thought this was the only way. I started lying to them, making excuses for him and tried to keep them at a distance so I could try to prove to them that I could sort this mess out, hoping that once I had done, they could see I was happy again, and all would be forgiven and forgotten. Things just got worse. I couldn’t function or think properly. I felt run down. I couldn’t eat, I didn’t want to leave the house, I had chest pains and one morning, I rang my stepdad crying and told him I didn’t want to live anymore. I knew then that things had to change, and I had to pick myself up for the sake of my children.” The doctor diagnosed me with a broken heart “That afternoon, my best friend took me to the doctor. I told her about the pain in my chest, and I poured everything out to her. She told me that I had a broken heart and diagnosed me with anxiety and depression. She gave me a telephone number for some counselling and talked to me about antidepressants. I remember she said, ‘I promise you that you will get through all of this.’ I didn’t believe her. I went home and told my husband enough was enough and that I had to be on my own with the children. I needed them with me to have a purpose to get myself well again. He respected my decision and apologised profusely for what he had done to me. I reluctantly started taking the medication from the doctor and going to counselling sessions once a week. I felt embarrassed about taking the pills and didn’t tell anyone (only my friend who came to the doctor with me knew). The stigma around antidepressants and them being ‘happy pills’ was at the forefront of my mind, and the worry of people thinking I wasn’t coping. They didn’t make me happy; they took away the ‘fuzziness’ in my head so that I could think straight. Antidepressants are certainly not the answer for everyone. No one’s mental health or situation is the same, but for me, it felt like I could step forward.” I needed to get help “Counselling was a place I could talk to someone, who didn’t know me, who I felt didn’t judge me, and it was my one hour a week that I could just sit down in a quiet room and talk away. I could slowly feel myself coming back. I felt like a better mummy to my three children. I had more patience; I was able to take them out and not panic about being out of the house. I surrounded myself with friends and family again, who are worth their weight in gold. Simple things – meeting for coffee, chatting on the phone, going for a walk, and I even went back and re-joined the gym. The next hurdle I had to face was divorce, selling our family home and joint businesses. I went to see a solicitor, who talked me through everything, gave me good advice and started the ball rolling. I had a wobble. Having to produce my marriage certificate to get divorced. Seeing things in writing was heartbreaking. I had built a life with this man for 16 years, and there I was, filling out forms to end it all. I had to keep reminding myself that this was the right decision for me, and especially for our children. Someone told me that it’s better to have two separate parents who are happy, than two parents together who are unhappy. I couldn’t agree more.” Figuring out my finances “Another big worry I had, was finances. I had left my career in the police force five years previously so that I could bring up our children. My husband had financially supported us, but now how was I going to go back to that career, working shifts of all hours, as a single mum? Fortunately for me, my husband wanted me to have our house, and we agreed that everything else was to be split 50/50. With so much to deal with, it needed to be baby steps with everything. One step at a time. Closing joint bank accounts, sorting out a rota for the children, and co-parenting with us being on the same page. There wasn’t any rush, though. It just had to be when I felt ready. I decided that I wanted to sell the house to have a fresh start, and I would find myself a new job that I could work around the children.” Finding myself again “I was on holiday with my family, sat around the pool looking for inspiration for a new job. One that would work for me around 3 young children. And I came across the franchise Sweaty Mama—a fitness class where you take your babies and children with you. I had always been into sport and fitness, so it seemed perfect for me. After studying for the relevant qualifications, in pre and postnatal fitness, 6 months later I started my own Sweaty Mama business. I firmly believe that surrounding yourself with like-minded women is a must. Sweaty Mama creates a community for women, many on maternity leave. The exercises sessions are a non-judgemental class, where pre and postnatal women can feel comfortable to exercise, bond with their babies and form friendships.” Sweaty Mama I felt strong again “After 10 months, I eventually felt strong enough to stop taking my medication and swapped my counselling sessions with evenings out with my friends. I met my new partner in a bar on a night out with friends. I was honest and open with him about everything, and I knew I had to put my trust issues to one side to make any new relationship work. I didn’t want to have trust issues. I didn’t want to be that girl who has to check their partner’s phone, and I didn’t want to worry when their other half goes on a lads’ night out. I told myself that he hadn’t given me any reason not to trust him, so I needed to, and he went above and beyond to make me feel relaxed and trusting. After 18 months of being together, I sold my house, and we bought a house together. We have a blended family, with my three children, his son and nearly six years down the line, and we now have a baby together. This wasn’t the life I thought I would have when I got married. It’s different, but it works, and I’m happy. I think about everything that happened quite often. I even sometimes have a cry about it. But I’ve accepted that it’s normal to still feel sad occasionally. It still often bothers me having to share my children, as sometimes I feel like I miss out on moments I shouldn’t have to. They are happy. They go between two happy, loving homes and have two parents, who are now friends, trying to do our best for them and putting them at the top of our priority. We are making it work.” “My doctor was right though – I did get through it.” My advice for other people going through it It’s ok to feel sad “Let yourself feel that emotion. There will be good days and bad, and eventually, the balance should alter so there’s much less bad. There’s no shame in getting external help when it comes to your mental health.” Use some sleep aids “In the beginning, the nights were the worst, and I relied on lavender pillow sprays, calming candles and meditating. When the children were in bed, and I was on my own, that’s when my brain ‘fired up!’ I wanted to try and stop my brain from working!! It was horrible. I felt like I was going crazy, so I looked for things to try and help me calm down.” Try not to focus on the family unit “You might not be happy right now, but eventually you will, and two happy parents are better than an unhappy home.” Get some advice and read up on your rights “Solicitors offer a free 30 mins consultation. So, I went to 3 or 4 and used my 30 minutes to gauge a feel for them. Did I like them? Did I connect with them? The solicitor who I chose in the end I felt was fair, straight to the point, and I felt they would have my back if things went pear-shaped. She gave me tips on how to protect myself financially ‘just in case.’” It’s ok to feel like you’re in shock and overwhelmed “If you’re asking, ‘What should I do?’. You need to think about what is right for you and not for someone else’. It’s ok to make mistakes or change your mind as you navigate something that could be unexpected and unwanted.” Let others help you “Surround yourself with good family and friends and don’t be scared to let them lift you. You will get through it!”
11 Things They (*And You) Need for Starting SchoolRead More How did we get here? It only feels like yesterday that we were swimming in a sea of nappies and Googling different shades of poo. Now they’re all grown up… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 21 August 2023 11 Things They (*And You) Need for Starting School How did we get here? It only feels like yesterday that we were swimming in a sea of nappies and Googling different shades of poo. Now they’re all grown up and heading off for big school. So, to help you with this momentous next step, here is a list of the things that will help you and them start school. For Them Raincoat They go outside no matter the weather, so a good coat is essential. *Tip: Always size up to account for jumpers. Buy Now Backpack We think we might have found the cutest school backpack of all time. For an extra special touch you could have their name embroidered by the apple and it would look so sweet! Buy Now Water Bottle This is a brilliant water bottle that’s built to withstand a great deal of wear and tear and has a little straw that’s perfect for small mouths. Buy Now Wellies You may be asked to bring in a pair of wellies that are kept at school. We particular love a bold block colour as they’re the perfect mix of smart and cute and then you can save the fun ones for home. Buy Now Lunchbox These lunchboxes are great for keeping everything seperate, even yoghurt! Buy Now Leather School Shoes Keeping those little feet smelling fresher. We love the velcro straps to encourage independence. Buy Now Tags, Tags and More Tags “If your kids have attended pre school you’ll be use to labelling but you might not have heard of this system. We have used these tags from day one and they are still going strong 4 years later. Get some sticker name labels too for shoes and things like bottles and lunch boxes. They will lose things and these are your best bet at ever seeing anything again.” Luzaan Shaw – TMC Style and Content Creator Buy Now Strong Girls/Brave Boys Club Patches We love this idea. You fix the badge inside their coat or wherever makes sense and it serves as a reminder that they’re brave and strong, and that you’re always with them. Buy Now For You Tracksuit The ultimate school run uniform for mums, easy to throw on, comfy and stylish. Buy Now Calm Patches For first day drop off, when you get a call from their teacher and just general life. Buy Now Raincoat An easy waterproof that you can chuck on quickly. Because it always starts pouring right when it’s time to drop them off and pick them up. It’s just the way it goes! Buy Now All products on this page have been selected by our editorial team, however, we may make a commission on some products.
TMC’s Guide to… CambridgeRead More Staycations have always been popular but especially now more than ever! TMC will be releasing guides to the best holiday destinations and TMC clubs in the UK according to our… Post author By The Mum Club Post date 17 August 2023 TMC’s Guide to… Cambridge Staycations have always been popular but especially now more than ever! TMC will be releasing guides to the best holiday destinations and TMC clubs in the UK according to our local franchisees. Next up…Cambridge. According to TMC Cambridge Franchise Owner Tracy Harris Where to Stay Best Boutique Stay: The Carpenters Arms Great Wilbraham Part of the Chestnut group, this hidden gem is slightly outside of the city centre but with boutique rooms, a fab restaurant and gorgeous garden (with onsite parking) you’ll be glad you found it! Find Out More Best Hotel: Parker’s Tavern in the City Centre For those that want something extra special then head over to the City Centre to Parker’s Tavern. All the city hot spots are on your doorstep. Book Now Best Out of Town Stay: The Fellows House by Curio at Hilton For a slightly out of town stay the gorgeous The Fellows House by Curio at Hilton is a hidden gem. Book Now Best BnB: The Three Hills Bartlow For those that love a bed and breakfast The Three Hills Bartlow might be outside the city centre but it is in a gorgeous setting out in the countryside with outhouse accommodation. Book Now Where To Eat Best Brunch Spot: Scott’s All Day Situated up Mill Road this is a brunch spot definitely worth a visit! The pancakes are to die for and a funky vibe with weekend bottomless brunch for a day with the girls! They also have a great food offering for the littles. Book a Table Best Kid Friendly: Bill’s Known countrywide Bill’s has a brilliant kids menu and is always bustling with young families. Book Now Best Coffee: Bould Brothers Bould Brothers do the best coffee in town, to get a seat head to the Regent Street café, but for a takeaway they have a city centre branch which is perfect for the summer! Check Out Now Best Lunch: Aromi For a delicious café or takeaway lunch head to Aromi or any of the food stalls on the market square will have your tastebuds tingling! Book Now Best Date Night: The Ivy Brasserie Nestled amongst the cobbled market streets the Ivy Brasserie is a real favourite for a romantic evening. Book Now What To Do Must See: The Botanic Gardens Slightly out of town but The Botanic Gardens are a must see in my opinion. Best Sightseeing: Punting Along River Cam Punting along the River Cam is the best way to see and learn about the famous colleges… you will be guaranteed to be blown away by the beauty of the Backs. Best Walk: Grantchester The beautiful riverside walk from the centre to Grantchester – you can refuel at one of the cafes or many pubs before heading back. Best Boutique Shop: Iris and Violet Iris and Violet is situated just off the market square with the most beautiful clothes and accessories. You could easily wile away a few kid free hours browsing their gorgeous hand picked collection. Find Out More TMC Cambridge Brunch Club If you want to meet local, likeminded mum friends on your trip why not attend a TMC Brunch club. Book Now Top Tips Best Time Of Year To Visit: Spring or Summer to have the best punting experience along the river. Travel: Take the buses or park and ride – it is so much cheaper and hassle free! You need a small mortgage to park in central Cambridge on the weekend.